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Miller, Sue. The Story of My Father

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“In the spring of 1986, Sue Miller found herself more and more deeply involved in caring for her father as he slipped into the grasp of Alzheimer’s disease. “The Story of My Father” is a profound, deeply moving account of her father’s final days and her own response to it. With care, restraint and consummate skill, Miller writes of her struggles to be fully with her father in his illness while confronting her own terror of abandonment, and eventually the long, hard work of grieving for him. And through this candid, painful record, she offers a rigorous, compassionate inventory of two lives, a powerful meditation on the variable nature of memory and the difficulty of weaving a truthful narrative from the threads of a dissolving life.”

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing
Year: 2004
ISBN-10: 0747565228

Rutherford, Michael; Robertson, Brian (Mike and the Mechanics) The Living Years

Every generation
Blames the one before
And all of their frustrations
Come beating on your door

I know that I’m a prisoner
To all my father held so dear
I know that I’m a hostage
To all his hopes and fears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years

Crumpled bits of paper
Filled with imperfect thought
Stilted conversations
I’m afraid that’s all we’ve got

You say you just don’t see it
He says it’s perfect sense
You just can’t get agreement in this present tense
We all talk a different language, talking in defense

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It’s too late when we die
To admit we don’t see eye to eye

So we open up a quarrel
Between the present and the past
We only sacrifice the future
It’s the bitterness that lasts

So don’t yield to the fortunes
You sometimes see as fate
It may have a new perspective on a different day
And if you don’t give up, and don’t give in, you may just be okay

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It’s too late when we die
To admit we don’t see eye to eye

I wasn’t there that morning
When my Father passed away
I didn’t get to tell him
All the things I had to say

I think I caught his spirit
Later that same year
I’m sure I heard his echo
In my baby’s new born tears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It’s too late when we die
To admit we don’t see eye to eye

Read more: Mike & The Mechanics – The Living Years Lyrics | MetroLyrics

Winkler, Irwin (dir). Life as a House

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When a man is diagnosed with terminal cancer, he takes custody of his misanthropic teenage son, for whom quality time means getting high, engaging in small-time prostitution, and avoiding his father.

Producers: Rob Cowan, Irwin Winkler
Year: 2001
Director: Irwin Winkler
Writer: Mark Andrus

Goldberg, Garry David (dir). Dad

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A busy, “always-on-the-run” executive learns during a meeting that his mother may be dying and rushes home to her side. He ends up being his father’s caretaker and becomes closer to him than ever before. In the process, he teaches his father to be more independent which causes problems with the man’s wife. Estranged from his own son, the executive comes to realize what has been missing in his own life.

Producers: Gary David Goldberg, Joseph Stern
Year: 1989
Director: Gary David Goldberg
Writer: Gary David Goldberg, William Wharton

Verghese, A. Cutting for Stone

Jean McKenree HYMS: This story (by Abraham Verghese) is narrated by one of a pair of twins of Indian descent born in Ethiopa.  Both grow up to be doctors in very different ways.  While the story line is a bit contrived, especially the ending, the earlier part set in Ethiopia is intriguing and weaves in the impact of poverty and corruption on health in fascinating and somewhat disturbing ways.

Publisher: Vintage
Paperback Edition
Year: 2009
ISBN-10: 9780099443636